{"id":2747,"date":"2018-08-21T17:58:32","date_gmt":"2018-08-21T17:58:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/womeninleadership.flywheelsites.com\/?p=2747"},"modified":"2018-08-22T15:15:45","modified_gmt":"2018-08-22T15:15:45","slug":"want-to-build-your-emotional-courage-feel-into-your-discomfort","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/want-to-build-your-emotional-courage-feel-into-your-discomfort\/","title":{"rendered":"Want to build your emotional courage? Feel into your discomfort."},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201c To lead effectively \u2013 really, to live effectively \u2013 you must be confident in yourself, connected to others, committed to purpose, and be emotionally courageous.<\/em>” Peter Bregman<\/p>\n

Are you looking for practices that will help support you in your leadership for life? In particular, for those times when you feel \u00a0discomfort about having \u00a0difficult and important conversations, or taking an informed calculated risk, or handling a setback or failure, or leading and living in uncertainty. Great leadership is hard! It is about being willing to experience the discomfort that occurs in all these challenging leadership situations.<\/p>\n

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According to Peter Bregman, the most critical challenge of leadership is emotional courage.\u00a0He purports that \u201cthe gap between leadership theory and practice is huge, and it is emotional courage that bridges the gap.” It helps you have the courage to speak up when others remain silent, be stable and grounded in the face of setbacks, failure, and uncertainty, admit you don\u2019t know and ask for help, respond productively to opposition without getting distracted, and weather other’s anger without shutting down or getting defensive.<\/p>\n

Peter Bregman offers 4 essential elements that all leaders need to excel at. \u00a0\u201cTo lead effectively \u2013 really, to live effectively \u2013 you must be confident in yourself, connected to others, committed to purpose, and be emotionally courageous.\u201d<\/p>\n

Here are Peter\u2019s four essential elements:<\/p>\n

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  1. Be Confident\u00a0<\/strong>in yourself. Embrace your authentic leader identity and lead with your strengths and grow yourself in your areas of development. This is healthy self regard \u2013 an emotional intelligence competency. With healthy self regard comes an authentic confidence that is unshakeable.<\/li>\n
  2. Be Connected\u00a0<\/strong>to others. Be appreciative, interested, and curious about people. Listen deeply, be keen observers of others, and learn what is important to them and what their hopes and dreams are.<\/li>\n
  3. Be Commited\u00a0<\/strong>to a purpose bigger than yourself. Know your compelling why and share this with those around you. Inspire action towards your shared vision and purpose.<\/li>\n
  4. Be Emotionally Courageous<\/strong>. Be comfortable with discomfort and feeling uncomfortable. Feeling uncomfortable is almost always a feeling you will have when you do anything that requires emotional courage. This is the new normal!\u00a0Be comfortable with a range of emotions and grow your emotional intelligence.\u00a0 The good news is showing up emotionally courageous builds your emotional courage.\u00a0 Emotional courage feeds and draws upon confidence, connection and commitment.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Are you curious how you rate on the 4 C\u2019s Confidence, Connection, Commitment and Courage?\u00a0Peter Bregman has created an assessment on his website and also in his book, that helps you identify strengths and weaknesses in each of the four elements. It\u2019s free to take http:\/\/bregmanpartners.com\/where-is-your-leadership-gap-assessment\/<\/a><\/p>\n

    I will be including this important topic of emotional courage \u00a0in my upcoming leadership programs. This will provide opportunities for participants to self diagnose, reflect, and engage in interactive learning activities to help them grow their emotional courage.<\/p>\n

    More on Peter Bregman: <\/strong><\/p>\n

    Peter is CEO of Bregman Partners<\/a>; a company that helps senior leaders create accountability and inspire collective action on their organizations most important work.\u00a0He is the author of the new book Leading<\/em>\u00a0<\/a>with Emotional Courage; how to have the hard conversations, build accountability and inspire action (2018) Wiley<\/em>; and the author of the July \u2013 August 2018 Harvard Business Review article Great Leaders are Confident, Connected, Committed and Courageous<\/em><\/a>. He is the host of the Bregman Leadership Podcast.<\/a><\/p>\n

    You may want to read the following WILL companion blog posts:<\/strong><\/p>\n

    \u201cWant to grow your Emotional Agility?\u00a0 Lean into your discomfort”<\/a><\/p>\n

    \u201cWomen, Emotional Intelligence and Leadership”<\/a><\/p>\n

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