{"id":679,"date":"2014-07-29T21:57:38","date_gmt":"2014-07-30T03:57:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/womeninleadership.flywheelsites.com\/?p=679"},"modified":"2019-08-16T17:42:24","modified_gmt":"2019-08-16T17:42:24","slug":"oops-i-forgot-to-look-after-myself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/oops-i-forgot-to-look-after-myself\/","title":{"rendered":"Oops!  I Forgot to Look After Myself!!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/LInda01.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-678 size-medium\" src=\"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/LInda01-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"LInda01\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" srcset=\"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/LInda01-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/LInda01.jpg 385w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>Whenever I facilitate a session on <span style=\"color: #993366;\">Radical Self Care<\/span> for women, I find women are frequently moved, often to tears, when they realize they have not been tending to themselves. Rather, they have been taking care of others, their parents, children, partners, people at work, their home, their community\u2026.and they are on overwhelm.<\/p>\n<p>Author <span style=\"color: #008080;\">Marci Shimoff\u2019s<\/span> words aptly capture what women experience: <span style=\"color: #008080;\">\u201c I speak to women in all parts of the world and we are all on overwhelm\u2026when we are in overwhelm what goes out the window first is our self care, so we are in many ways abandoning ourself because of this treadmill we are on in trying to keep up with the overwhelm.\u201d<\/span><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>How does our self care end up out the window? As one woman told me at a recent workshop, taking care of herself, especially in her East Indian culture, was considered selfish. Another woman mentioned that if she took some self care she might be disappointing others. And as caretakers of the world, women often don&#8217;t recognize how vulnerable they are until they are totally spent, or sick, depleted, or traumatized. And then, they don\u2019t know where to start.<\/p>\n<p>I have been referring people to <span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.saragottfriedmd.com\/tag\/oxytocin\/\"><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">Dr. Sara Gottfried\u2019s<\/span><\/a><\/span> work and site, where she shares ideas about how to increase <span style=\"color: #993366;\">the bonding\/love hormone oxytocin<\/span> to help de-stress and bring our hormones into balance. This in turn contributes to good rest and well being. One blog on Dr. Gottfried\u2019s site notes several oxytocin producing activities: hug, laugh, play, look into someone\u2019s eyes and smile, give gratitude, orgasm, or play with a pet.<\/p>\n<p>One of my favorite<span style=\"color: #000000;\"> oxytocin builders<\/span> is being in nature\u2026where I can experience beauty, fresh air, space, and exercise &#8211; just like in this photo above taken in the <span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.greatsouthwest.ca\/great-sandhills\/\"><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">Great Sand Hills<\/span><\/a><\/span> in southwest Saskatchewan.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Linda McCann<\/strong>, July 29, 2014<\/p>\n<p>About the Photo<\/p>\n<p>Linda at the <span style=\"color: #000000;\">Great Sand Hills<\/span>, by Norm Dallin<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Whenever I facilitate a session on Radical Self Care for women, I find women are frequently moved, often to tears, when they realize they have not been tending to themselves. Rather, they have been taking care of others, their parents, children, partners, people at work, their home, their community&hellip;.and they are on overwhelm. Author Marci [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[8,99],"tags":[],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/679"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=679"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/679\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3006,"href":"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/679\/revisions\/3006"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=679"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=679"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/womeninleadershipforlife.ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=679"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}